Protectors Have Feelings, Too Read Post »
Yes, protectors have protective jobs within us and exiles hold emotions that could otherwise overwhelm the internal system—but that doesn’t mean that emotions always point to exiles. Protectors have feelings, too. When protectors have been forced into extreme roles, they are likely to have strong feelings about those roles. Since extreme strategies are never completely […]
Everyday IFS & the Self-to-Part Relationship Read Post »
The authentic, ongoing relationship with our parts is not hard labor, and it certainly extends far beyond what takes place in therapeutic sessions. IFS, which cultivates the Self-to-part relationship, can be playful and spontaneous, easing the way we cope with ordinary challenges on a daily basis. Once we have gotten to know even a few
Often, when we have parts that are activated and blended, it feels impossible to use our IFS tools, or even remember that we have IFS tools at all. When this happens, the only thing we really need to know is that the presence of Self is healing. Even a very small amount of Self energy
Meaning & Connection: The Practice of Spiritual Care in IFS Read Post »
What is “spiritual care,” exactly? In the context of IFS, spiritual care means respecting and supporting the spirituality of our clients. Then, what is spirituality? People define spirituality in so many contradictory ways, and some definitions of spirituality wouldn’t be very compatible with IFS. I’ll offer my own definition in a moment, but I want
